How to Feel Worthy When You're Insecure | Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E8

Today, I’m sharing about my personal journey with self-worth and confidence, and how attachment theory has supported me in navigating unworthiness and insecurity. I’ve been wrestling with feelings of unworthiness lately, a familiar struggle with believing that I belong and that what I offer truly matters. If you've ever felt like you're not enough or wondered how to show up authentically when self-doubt takes hold, I hope this episode supports you. I explore the transformative question that changed everything, shared with me by a former therapist. I also offer practical strategies for building self-trust from the inside out, setting healthy boundaries, recognizing when we're seeking external validation to fill internal emptiness, and cultivating the self-compassion and emotional security we all deserve.

Elizabeth GilletteMarch 10, 2026attachment style, attachment theory, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, attachment coaching, attachment specialist, advocacy, community support

Why You Should Invest in the Relationships You Have: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E1

Today I’m exploring relationship repair, secure attachment, and relationship disconnection—and why investing in the relationships you already have, rather than constantly searching for something new, might be the most revolutionary choice you can make. Let’s discuss how to navigate relationship disconnection, practice intentional repair, and build resilient, secure relationships through accountability and compassion.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 24, 2026attachment style, attachment theory, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, attachment coaching, attachment specialist, advocacy, community support

What Your Nervous System Wants

Let’s explore nervous system regulation and how understanding your unique nervous system can transform your relationships and daily life. I discuss attachment styles, nervous system health, and practical tools for emotional regulation that you can use right away.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 17, 2026attachment theory, attachment style, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, community support, advocacy, attachment coaching, attachment specialistComment

Make Your Community Your Valentine This Year: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E5

Becoming better at relationships doesn't just mean intimate partnerships--it's also about how you show up for your community and support your neighbors. What if you made your community your Valentine this year?

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 5, 2026healthy relationships, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, valentine's day traditions, valentine's dayComment

How to Build Emotional Capacity (and Why It Matters, Especially Now)

Building capacity for stress is a skill that supports all of our relationships—and helps us cope more effectively with our daily challenges and our greater emotional landscape. This type of work is especially important in the context of attachment theory, relationships, and attachment styles: we can ALL use skills that support us in engaging in relationships with a greater capacity for discomfort.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 27, 2026attachment theory, attachment style, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, community support, advocacy, attachment coaching, attachment specialistComment

3 Skills to Cultivate for Healthier Relationships This Year: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E3

Let’s talk about concrete, practical skills that can support you in having healthier, more fulfilling, and reciprocal relationships this year.

In a world that seems to be consistently generating new injustices, fears, and concerns about the safety of people we love, I want us to feel a sense of agency in how we show up in our relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 20, 2026attachment theory, healthy relationships, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, attachment styles, attachment specialist, attachment therapist, relationship skillsComment

What I Wish I Knew About Relationships In the Past–And What I’m Working on Now: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E2

Relationships, attachment styles, boundaries, and the hard-won lessons I've learned over the course of my relational life--that's what we're chatting about in Episode 2 of Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 15, 2026attachment styles, attachment theory, attachment specialist, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, healthy relationshipsComment

Embodiment is Foundational to Healthy Relationships

Embodiment and connection to self is one of the most important ways we can improve our relationships with others. Developing awareness of our emotional patterns, parts, triggers, and needs allows us to communicate more effectively and slow down the relational process so we can really see one another. Feeling more at home in yourself is a beautiful gift to give and receive, and I’m really excited to share an embodiment opportunity with you!

Elizabeth GilletteSeptember 8, 2022retreat, embodiment, attachment styles, healthy relationships, attachment therapist, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachmentComment

How to Connect, Based on Your Attachment Style

In the attachment and relationship world, we talk a lot about prioritizing connection, but we don’t necessarily talk about *how* to go about the connecting part. Depending on your attachment style, the prospect of creating connection may be fraught with stress or anxiety, or maybe even feelings of desperation or dread. I think it’s important to explore what it means to really connect with another person, what our goals are for connection, and how to connect in a way that feels natural and ultimately safe for us.

Elizabeth GilletteNovember 29, 2021attachment styles, attachment style, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationshipsComment

Healing is Our Responsibility to Each Other

I’ve been thinking a lot about healing our attachment wounds in the context of community. I am so lucky to have an amazing network of people in my life who are fully on board with doing the work—our individual work, our collective work, and everything in between—and in conversation with these people, I am reminded of not only my care and love for them but of my responsibility to them. My life does not exist in a vacuum. The actions I choose to take and how I show up in the world directly impact my family and my community, and our communities are all connected.

Elizabeth GilletteSeptember 13, 2021secure attachment style, secure attachment relationship, secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationships, effective communicationComment

The Joys of Secure Attachment

If you’ve been doing attachment work in any capacity, you already know that our collective goal is to work toward a greater sense of security. Even those of us with secure attachment have the opportunity to bring more awareness to our interactions and be the safe, secure base for many people in our families and communities.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 31, 2021secure attachment style, attachment theory, attachment styles, healthy relationships, secure attachment relationship, relationships, relationship goalsComment

How do I move on from my relationship?

I hope you are taking good care of yourself and you are feeling supported in your community.

I am taking the opportunity this week to answer a few questions that folks submitted to me via Instagram. I love being able to respond to your inquiries and provide some perspective from an attachment lens about your experiences. Thank you for your vulnerability and trust!

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 17, 2021attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant partner, avoidant attachment style, avoidant, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationships, relational patterns Comment

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