An Invitation to Experience Radical Nourishment 🫶🏼

What we are doing right now matters. Who we connect with, how we show up, the values that we choose to live—it matters so very much. The space we are creating in the Relational Nourishment Project to practice with one another and to get clear about what it is that we want to be different is so special. When we have each other, its more than enough. This project is truly a culmination of all that I’ve learned in my life about relationships, taking care of each other, being responsible to ourselves and our communities, and knowing ourselves deeply.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 11, 2025relational nourishment project, relational coaching, relationship issues, community, communication, relationship patterns, relationship goals, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachmentComment

What does relational nourishment mean to you?

I’ve learned in my fifteen years as a therapist that many people did not receive adequate relational nourishment. This happens for many reasons—structural and systemic, trauma and neglect. Sometimes we don’t even know that we didn’t receive this type of nourishment because we don’t have any other perspective or experience; it’s just the reality. But what I’ve also learned is that relational nourishment can be cultivated at any point in our lives if we know what to look for and how to do it.

Elizabeth GilletteJuly 29, 2025relational nourishment project, elizabeth gillette, anxious attachment style, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, relational trauma, relationship coaching, relationship issues, relationship patternsComment

Are you a shape shifter in relationships?

Folks with insecure attachment styles have a skill in common that serves them in many capacities. It’s one that can show up in every type of relationship and tricks us into feeling like we are safe—by blending in, by being passive, by not drawing too much attention to ourselves. And it’s a behavior pattern that comes back to bite us SO HARD that once we stop doing it, life can change pretty dramatically and it can take some time to get ourselves back on track and feeling connected again.

Elizabeth GilletteJuly 2, 2025anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, relational nourishment project, elizabeth gilletteComment

Self-Sacrifice Isn’t Honorable When You’re Resentful

Since the start of the year, I have been really leaning into exploring the parts of my personality that I would rather not look at—the parts I’m shameful or embarrassed about, and the ones that I try to hide or keep at bay but always, always show up at some point in my relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteMarch 6, 2025anxious attachment style, anxious avoidant trap, anxious avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, relationship issues, relationship patterns, relationship goals, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, elizabeth gilletteComment

I Keep Trying to Get Impossible People to Love Me

I remember so many times in my early romantic relationships (and honestly, some adult friendships) when I truly did ignore all the warnings, some of them as blatant as “I do not want to be in a relationship right now.”

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 20, 2025anxious attachment, avoidant dismissive, dismissive avoidant, avoidant attachment triggers, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, anxious avoidant trap, attachment styleComment

How to Be More Resilient in Your Relationships

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 6, 2025anxious attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, avoidant-dismissive, resiliency, relationship coaching, relationship anxiety, relationship counseling, relationship patternsComment

Managing Anxious Attachment Behaviors and Impulses

I want to talk about anxious attachment behaviors, impulses, and tendencies. I remember viscerally how it feels to be in relationship with someone who leans toward the avoidant end of the relational spectrum as a person who has the anxious style—and I would describe it as torturous at times, to be completely honest.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 23, 2025anxious attachment, anxious attachment style, anxious avoidant trap, anxious avoidant dynamic, disorganized attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, relationship anxietyComment

Tending to What's Yours

Our environment is one of constant distraction, overwhelm, dysregulation and the desire to be almost anywhere that you are not currently. What if our work is to learn to channel those feelings into what matters most and let go of the rest?

Elizabeth GilletteJune 18, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, inner resourcing, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, attachment coach, relationship coachingComment

Every Modality is a Framework

I’ve received a few strongly-worded emails about my offerings (including the fact that Monica and I are including a bonus astrology reading in our HELD group coaching program, because astrology is not "evidence-based"), and I wanted to address it directly because I feel like it connects to some greater issues that I see at play in the therapy/healing world currently.

Elizabeth GilletteApril 24, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, attachment coaching, attachment styles, attachment theory, elizabeth gillette, held with elizabeth and monica, held group coachingComment

How Many Truths Can Be True At Once?

In this eclipse time, where the things we don’t need are falling away left and right, I want to offer some permission slips for you:

Elizabeth GilletteApril 5, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, held group coaching, held with elizabeth and monica, attachment coaching, attachment theory, healing attachment woundsComment

Your younger parts want to know who is in charge 👶🏻

As I’ve been researching and planning for our disorganized attachment offerings, I’ve been thinking about how easy it can be to slip into younger versions of ourselves when stress, trauma, fear, or overwhelm creep in. Parts work, or Internal Family Systems, can be a beautiful and extremely helpful framework for understanding why we show up the way we do in moments of stress and anxiety—especially in our relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 28, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, held retreat, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment therapist, attachment coachComment

Safety, Clarity, and Connection: Supporting Insecure Attachment Styles

Safety, clarity, and connection are qualities that create a grounded experience in the nervous system. When confusion and disorientation are corrected (clarity), the body and brain feel safe (safety), and the ability to connect is freed up (connection). Over the many years I’ve been exploring attachment work and supporting clients in developing a felt sense of safety in their bodies, these are the aspects that have resonated most.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 13, 2024attachment style, attachment theory, fearful avoidant, disorganized attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, secure attachment relationship, elizabeth gillette, held with elizabeth and monicaComment

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