What does relational nourishment mean to you?

I’ve learned in my fifteen years as a therapist that many people did not receive adequate relational nourishment. This happens for many reasons—structural and systemic, trauma and neglect. Sometimes we don’t even know that we didn’t receive this type of nourishment because we don’t have any other perspective or experience; it’s just the reality. But what I’ve also learned is that relational nourishment can be cultivated at any point in our lives if we know what to look for and how to do it.

Elizabeth GilletteJuly 29, 2025relational nourishment project, elizabeth gillette, anxious attachment style, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, relational trauma, relationship coaching, relationship issues, relationship patternsComment

Reflections and a Big New Idea

I’ve been anticipating a pivot in my work for (if I’m really honest) YEARS. I’ve been calling in something new and the idea dropped in a few weeks ago. I’ve been feverishly writing and brainstorming and that’s my favorite place to be—creating something new that feels hopeful, exciting, and healing from the jump.

Elizabeth GilletteMay 20, 2025relationship coaching, relationship goals, relational nourishment project, attachment coach, friendshipComment

How to Be More Resilient in Your Relationships

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 6, 2025anxious attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, avoidant-dismissive, resiliency, relationship coaching, relationship anxiety, relationship counseling, relationship patterns Comment

Tending to What's Yours

Our environment is one of constant distraction, overwhelm, dysregulation and the desire to be almost anywhere that you are not currently. What if our work is to learn to channel those feelings into what matters most and let go of the rest?

Elizabeth GilletteJune 18, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, inner resourcing, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, attachment coach, relationship coaching Comment

Your 2022 Relational Reflection

Happy Winter Solstice! I love taking time to do some reflection around the Solstice—I think it’s such a powerful ritual so we can get clear about what has worked and what hasn’t, what we are grateful for, and what we want to carry with us and cultivate in the next year.

Elizabeth GilletteDecember 20, 2022anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, relational reflection, relationship coaching, attachment therapist, attachment styles in relationshipsComment

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