How to Feel Worthy When You're Insecure | Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E8

Today, I’m sharing about my personal journey with self-worth and confidence, and how attachment theory has supported me in navigating unworthiness and insecurity. I’ve been wrestling with feelings of unworthiness lately, a familiar struggle with believing that I belong and that what I offer truly matters. If you've ever felt like you're not enough or wondered how to show up authentically when self-doubt takes hold, I hope this episode supports you. I explore the transformative question that changed everything, shared with me by a former therapist. I also offer practical strategies for building self-trust from the inside out, setting healthy boundaries, recognizing when we're seeking external validation to fill internal emptiness, and cultivating the self-compassion and emotional security we all deserve.

Elizabeth GilletteMarch 10, 2026attachment style, attachment theory, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, attachment coaching, attachment specialist, advocacy, community support

Why You Should Invest in the Relationships You Have: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E1

Today I’m exploring relationship repair, secure attachment, and relationship disconnection—and why investing in the relationships you already have, rather than constantly searching for something new, might be the most revolutionary choice you can make. Let’s discuss how to navigate relationship disconnection, practice intentional repair, and build resilient, secure relationships through accountability and compassion.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 24, 2026attachment style, attachment theory, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, attachment coaching, attachment specialist, advocacy, community support

What Your Nervous System Wants

Let’s explore nervous system regulation and how understanding your unique nervous system can transform your relationships and daily life. I discuss attachment styles, nervous system health, and practical tools for emotional regulation that you can use right away.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 17, 2026attachment theory, attachment style, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, community support, advocacy, attachment coaching, attachment specialistComment

Make Your Community Your Valentine This Year: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E5

Becoming better at relationships doesn't just mean intimate partnerships--it's also about how you show up for your community and support your neighbors. What if you made your community your Valentine this year?

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 5, 2026healthy relationships, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, valentine's day traditions, valentine's dayComment

How to Build Emotional Capacity (and Why It Matters, Especially Now)

Building capacity for stress is a skill that supports all of our relationships—and helps us cope more effectively with our daily challenges and our greater emotional landscape. This type of work is especially important in the context of attachment theory, relationships, and attachment styles: we can ALL use skills that support us in engaging in relationships with a greater capacity for discomfort.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 27, 2026attachment theory, attachment style, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, healthy relationships, community support, advocacy, attachment coaching, attachment specialistComment

3 Skills to Cultivate for Healthier Relationships This Year: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E3

Let’s talk about concrete, practical skills that can support you in having healthier, more fulfilling, and reciprocal relationships this year.

In a world that seems to be consistently generating new injustices, fears, and concerns about the safety of people we love, I want us to feel a sense of agency in how we show up in our relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 20, 2026attachment theory, healthy relationships, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, attachment styles, attachment specialist, attachment therapist, relationship skillsComment

What I Wish I Knew About Relationships In the Past–And What I’m Working on Now: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E2

Relationships, attachment styles, boundaries, and the hard-won lessons I've learned over the course of my relational life--that's what we're chatting about in Episode 2 of Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 15, 2026attachment styles, attachment theory, attachment specialist, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, healthy relationshipsComment

Why I'm Devoted to Becoming Relational and You Should Be Too: Becoming Relational with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW S1E1

Welcome to the very first episode of Becoming Relational! I'm Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW and I'm so grateful you're here with me. In this episode, I discuss my passion for relationships, my own path to becoming an attachment specialist, and why I believe compassionate, nuanced connection is so vital in our world today.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 8, 2026elizabeth gillette, becoming relational with elizabeth gillette, podcast, attachment theory, attachment specialistComment

Year End Reflections and Some Gifts For You 💝

I have come to love December so much. I actually enjoy the shorter days and the very good excuse to cozy up at home. Candles, fires, hot tea. I love the lights in the dark. I have come to trust that this part of the year is important and that the longer warmer days will return. We can’t be sunny and blooming all the time. This time of year can serve as a respite from the constant busy-ness of our culture and give us the opportunity to return to a place of rest and regulation if we let it.

Elizabeth GilletteDecember 12, 2025attachment theory, relational coaching, relational reflection, attachment coach, attachment specialist, elizabeth gillette Comment

What does it mean if I don't fit in?

It begins in small ways: making a different choice than we would otherwise because we think it will make us appear better or cooler or more interesting to someone else. Shifting how we relate to something that has been important to us because another person doesn’t see the same value in it. Minimizing our needs because they are inconvenient to someone else, and if we inconvenience that person, they might just go away.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 26, 2025relational trauma, attachment theory, attachment styles, codependency, relational nourishment project, elizabeth gilletteComment

A peek at my most "annoying" part and a vulnerable ask

It’s important for us to understand our parts and what they are trying to do when we are using an attachment lens. These parts can give us so much information about our needs and what would be helpful and supportive to us in our current relationships (or inform us about what we really want and need in a partnership if we aren’t in one currently and want to be).

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 1, 2024Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, attachment styles, anxious attachment style, secure attachment, elizabeth gillette, held retreat, held with elizabeth and monica, healing retreatComment

Tending to What's Yours

Our environment is one of constant distraction, overwhelm, dysregulation and the desire to be almost anywhere that you are not currently. What if our work is to learn to channel those feelings into what matters most and let go of the rest?

Elizabeth GilletteJune 18, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, inner resourcing, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, attachment coach, relationship coachingComment

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