Year End Reflections and Some Gifts For You 💝

I have come to love December so much. I actually enjoy the shorter days and the very good excuse to cozy up at home. Candles, fires, hot tea. I love the lights in the dark. I have come to trust that this part of the year is important and that the longer warmer days will return. We can’t be sunny and blooming all the time. This time of year can serve as a respite from the constant busy-ness of our culture and give us the opportunity to return to a place of rest and regulation if we let it.

Elizabeth GilletteDecember 12, 2025attachment theory, relational coaching, relational reflection, attachment coach, attachment specialist, elizabeth gillette Comment

Gathering Each Other Up

In my teary reflections this week, their transition has been making me wonder: what am I doing here? What is my legacy? How do I want to show up and how can I love my life and this world even more? What is truly meaningful to me, and am I living in alignment with those values? What distracts me from what matters? What do I want to share and how do I want to offer the kind of healing that changes lives and hearts and creates safety and connection? I believe Andrea would say (more eloquently than I can) that each of us can do this in our own unique way, and that every offering is meaningful and powerful and needed.

Elizabeth GilletteJuly 20, 2025anxious attachment, avoidant dismissive, attachment therapist, attachment coach, relational nourishment project, andrea gibson, attachment authorComment

Tending to What's Yours

Our environment is one of constant distraction, overwhelm, dysregulation and the desire to be almost anywhere that you are not currently. What if our work is to learn to channel those feelings into what matters most and let go of the rest?

Elizabeth GilletteJune 18, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, inner resourcing, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, attachment coach, relationship coachingComment

Your younger parts want to know who is in charge 👶🏻

As I’ve been researching and planning for our disorganized attachment offerings, I’ve been thinking about how easy it can be to slip into younger versions of ourselves when stress, trauma, fear, or overwhelm creep in. Parts work, or Internal Family Systems, can be a beautiful and extremely helpful framework for understanding why we show up the way we do in moments of stress and anxiety—especially in our relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 28, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, held retreat, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment therapist, attachment coachComment

The Power of Witnessing and Holding Space in Relationships

I’m so happy to be here checking in with you—it’s been a wild few weeks in our house. After recovering from several viruses, we finally got COVID and it was as terrible as I suspected it might be! We are on the mend now and I’m more grateful for our health than ever. I know lots of folks have been through it lately, whether it’s health-related challenges or just a lot arising in relationships and the collective. I want you to know that I see you and I know it’s hard, but we are moving through it one day at a time.

Elizabeth GilletteDecember 7, 2022attachment style, attachment theory, attachment coach, relationship goals, improving communication in a relationship, self love, self-care, self-awarenessComment

Loving yourself might look different than you thought

We learn to love ourselves through our relationships with other people. This is supportive if you grew up in an environment where your caregivers and family members encouraged you to express and stay true to yourself, honor your needs, and stand up for yourself in challenging moments.

Elizabeth GilletteSeptember 28, 2022self love, attachment theory, attachment styles, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, healing, attachment coach, attachment therapistComment

Are you internally resourced?

Now that I’ve done this work for a while, I’m able to see that there are a lot of different ways to utilize attachment theory. I think the most effective way to utilize attachment theory is using approachable and inclusive materials, dropping in to the body, and creating resources and strategies that build a felt sense of safety.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 24, 2022attachment theory, avoidant attachment style, anxious attachment style, anxious avoidant trap, attachment coach, attachment therapist, internal resourcing, internal family systems, somatic therapyComment

I've been looking for a deep connection

I have always wanted more in relationships.

I remember being in elementary school, maybe 7 or 8, and deeply longing for a best friend. I had friends, but I always felt a little bit on the outside of those relationships. They would automatically play with each other at recess, and I had to ask to join; they sat next to each other at lunch, and I had to try to squeeze in or just choose to sit somewhere else. It wasn’t that they were being mean or intentionally excluding me as much as they were just in their own world together, and I wasn’t a part of it in a meaningful way until I was right there in front of them.

Elizabeth GilletteJuly 25, 2022attachment style, attachment theory, attachment styles, online courses, online course, relational coaching, attachment coach, Internal Family Systems, enneagram, parts work internal family systems Comment

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