Attachment-focused, relationship-based therapy to support growing families.
On a daily basis, I find myself asking my clients: what memories and moments do you want to pass on to your children? The answer varies, but the feeling is the same: love, trust, and comfort.
It's easier said than done though, right? When you can barely take care of yourself because you're so sleep deprived you can't see straight or remember what day it is, it's hard to be present in the moment and aware of what your children will remember about the quality of your interactions with them. How do you give these tiny people experiences you never had? What about when you are so overcome with emotion and you totally lose it on your kids and then feel terrible later? I will tell you this: you are not the only parent who does this. Nearly every parent has memories of their own childhood as they are raising their children. We don’t talk about how your own memories come up full force as you are changing diapers and chasing toddlers. But they do, and I can support you in processing those memories, learning from your own experiences, and using them to help you show up better for your kiddos (and feel better yourself).
And of course the added layer is your relationship with your partner. Sometimes it’s hard to find the words to communicate what’s happening for you in your relationship. You're so busy trying to meet the basic needs of your family you can hardly find time to think. Time passes and the feelings go unexpressed. The resentment builds. The next thing you know, you are fighting in the kitchen about who didn’t take out the trash and your child is looking up at you with big eyes and you feel like you were punched in the stomach. Maybe you really want to have children and your partner doesn't. Or you are both content with not having kids, but you see the ways your old patterns keep repeating themselves and you're tired of it. Maybe you aren't in a relationship but you want to be, and you want to show up as fully and authentically as you can when you're ready.
The work we do together will support all of the relationships in your life, and most importantly, support you in expressing your needs and learning how to ask them to be met in healthy ways.
- Healthy relationships, communication, and boundaries
- Exploration of early childhood experiences and how they impact you as an adult
- Pregnancy and postpartum mental health support
- Couples adjustment to parenthood
- Coping with acute or chronic illness, or supporting someone you love