An Invitation to Experience Radical Nourishment 🫶🏼

What we are doing right now matters. Who we connect with, how we show up, the values that we choose to live—it matters so very much. The space we are creating in the Relational Nourishment Project to practice with one another and to get clear about what it is that we want to be different is so special. When we have each other, its more than enough. This project is truly a culmination of all that I’ve learned in my life about relationships, taking care of each other, being responsible to ourselves and our communities, and knowing ourselves deeply.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 11, 2025relational nourishment project, relational coaching, relationship issues, community, communication, relationship patterns, relationship goals, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachmentComment

Nonmonogamy and Attachment

Relationship structures continue to evolve. As people become more conscious and aware of how they show up in relationships and the work good relationships require, I see folks becoming more creative in the ways they get their needs met and how they meet their partners needs. The concept of nonmonogamy is not new by any means, but the words “open relationship” and “polyamory” are making their way into mainstream conversations about love, attachment, and partnership more and more often.

Elizabeth GilletteSeptember 17, 2018attachment styles, attachment, nonmonogamy, relationships, partnerships, communication, attachment style, anxious-avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, anxious avoidant trap, anxious attachment style, anxious ambivalent, anxious attachment, anxious avoidant dynamic, how to self soothe anxious attachment Comments

Sex and Attachment Interview Series with Jamie Brazell: Part 1

I feel so lucky to have had the opportunity to talk with Jamie Brazell, M. Ed., LMFT, CST in this first interview about Sex & Attachment. During this first piece, we are talking about the work Jamie does, the different variables that can impact intimacy, and the importance of flexibility in relationships…

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 5, 2018anxious-avoidant relationship pattern, anxious-avoidant trap, avoidant-dismissive, avoidant, anxious attachment, anxious-ambivalent, sex, relationships, healthy relationships, communication, intimacy Comment

Scripts for Soothing: Avoidant Attachment Adaptation

In a previous blog post, I talked about strategies for soothing partners with an anxious attachment adaptation. As we talked about before, understanding our personal attachment styles as well as our partner’s can help us deescalate tricky relationship dynamics before they become blow-out arguments. In this post, we’ll be talking about soothing strategies for folks with an avoidant attachment adaptation.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 17, 2017attachment, relationships, partnership, communication, avoidant, attachment theory Comments

Scripts for Soothing: Anxious Attachment Adaptation

Arguing with our partner is quite possibly one of the most stressful day-to-day experiences we can have. On the way out the door to work, when we arrive home and are trying to get dinner on the table, or right before bed; no matter how it happens, it’s kind of the worst. Bedtime is my least favorite argument time. My partner and I are both exhausted and even our best deescalating and coping skills can’t stop a petty disagreement from becoming a blow-out argument where we go to bed pissed and wake up feeling crappy.

Elizabeth GilletteJune 12, 2017attachment, anxious ambivalent, relationships, communication, how to self soothe anxious attachment Comments

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