I recently began reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn and it has given me so much insight into the ways that we inadvertently send messages to the people we love that they must do something for us or behave a certain way in order to receive our care and continued support. I started to think about how this might translate to adult relationships and attachment theory.
Read MoreMaybe your partner is telling you directly that they aren’t interested in doing the work (for example, they don’t want to go to therapy, read books with you, have uncomfortable conversations about your relationship, or try new things to improve your communication), or maybe they don’t see a problem with how your relationship feels right now. Something is happening that is sending you a message.
Read MoreI received some really wonderful attachment questions over the past two weeks and rather than focusing on one, I wanted to answer all four of them. I always appreciate the ways that this community interacts with me and I really do love hearing from you. Let’s dive in!
Read MoreI heard this quote from Austin Channing Brown in her interview with Brene Brown on Brene's podcast Unlocking Us: "you might be a good person, but you can be a better one." I'm still thinking about it, still feeling it, and still digging in to the ways I can strive toward showing up more fully and powerfully for my fellow human beings. This can happen in so many ways. If you are feeling like you don't know what to do, just start somewhere. Listening to this episode is a perfect place to begin.
Read MoreI don’t have to tell you that we are witnessing and participating in a major shift in our country and culture. Our actions and inactions are making it clear to our families and our communities where we stand and what we believe in.
I want to be explicit about my stance: Black lives matter.
Exactly a year ago today, my partner and I found out we were expecting our son Nico. As he approaches the four-month mark (!!!), I am reminded of how much we wanted him as part of our family. The timing of this reminder couldn’t be more perfect given the circumstances and the feelings of isolation so many of us are experiencing.
Read MoreSo much has happened since I last wrote to you. I don’t need to tell you that because I know how deeply you feel it in your body, in your day to day life. Life as we know it as been turned upside down and it’s going to take us a long time to figure out how to move forward. Until then, we are living in the moment, in the uncertainty.
I don’t know about you, but this has been incredibly difficult for me.
As you know, my partner and I are expecting our first child in the next month (!!!) and I’ve spent quite a bit of time contemplating my relationship to my work while transitioning to the role of parent. Initially, I thought FOR SURE that I would have blog posts written ahead of time to share while I was away. Then I became pregnant and my creative energy shifted and it felt like that option went out the window! The reality is this: I have NO idea how I’m going to feel, what I will be able to produce, or how much time I will truly have to devote to my work when I am juggling my new role as a mother over the next few months. And because my true work on this planet is to pass down the healthiest, most secure attachment patterns I can, I am going to make that my priority while I’m on maternity leave.
Read MoreAs a therapist, I have the honor and privilege of being able to witness people at all stages of their healing paths. This means that I’m working with people who are still feeling very hurt and we are sorting through the pain together; people who have some space from their experiences and are formulating a plan to practice different emotional patterns; and people who are actively engaging in new routines, making mistakes, and self-correcting based on their new emotional blueprints. Across the board, everyone is actively learning. Sometimes I also encounter folks in the world who haven’t started on their healing work yet or are feeling stuck where they are, and their energy is very different.
Read MoreIn today’s bonus episode, I’m speaking with Dr. Chelsea Rae Verslues (she/her) with Nourish and Flourish Network Care located here in Asheville, NC. This powerful episode is filled with inspiration, love and wisdom! Dr. Chelsea Rae shares her healing journey along with her passion for empowering others to heal, tune into their bodies and live their best life.
Read MoreI have lots of fresh new content to share with you this week! First: there is a new BONUS episode of the Here to Heal podcast today! I’m sharing a sweet and powerful interview I had with Dr. Chelsea Rae Verslues, a trained chiropractor and network care practitioner here in Asheville, North Carolina. We talk all about healing, tapping in to our personal power, and listening deeply to our bodies.
Read MoreFirst, I’m thrilled to be sharing 2 bonus podcast episodes with you in the next month. I’m also going to be launching a new support bundle that is filled to the brim with prompts, tools, and strategies to support you in your self-healing journey. Focusing on your own healing work is an incredibly powerful way to make huge changes to your day-to-day experience of your life, as well as directly impact every relationship you are a part of.
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