I have been focused lately on really fine-tuning my life. This looks like examining each part of my day to day and schedule, structures and routines, and commitments and future plans to be sure everything feels like it’s in alignment. As a result, I’ve had to make some changes that are uncomfortable and stretch me in my commitment to growth—especially because I am so clear that self-betrayal (that looks like over-committing and/or committing to the wrong things) is a path I’ve been down before. I can also say that I have self-betrayed as recently as a few months ago, so it’s an ongoing journey for all of us!

You are your own best resource

Hello and Happy New Year! Do you choose a word for the year? I started doing this a few years ago and it’s been a really sweet guiding practice for me throughout the year. For 2022, my word is EMBODY and I am excited to align my work and personal life with the goal of being in my body and aware of my physical experiences and sensations, as well as embodying the practices I teach in a fuller way. I am looking forward to how this word will guide me.

Rest is Part of Healing

Today I want to talk about a topic that has been near and dear to my heart recently: REST. Relaxation (or just being) does not come naturally to me, but recently I've been learning to appreciate the importance of integrating our experiences as a critical component of healing.

here to heal podcast, episode 7: we are here to take care of each other

I often share in my practice we are here to take care of each other--and today I’m exploring more about this belief in relationship to our communities. Secure attachment is the focus of healthy relationships, and our large scale relationships need some love and care.

What are your barriers to connection?

You know how important connection is to relationships and a fulfilling life—you wouldn’t be here otherwise. Connection is one of those things we talk about in a vague way, as if everyone just has it and you can find it conveniently. But I don’t think that’s true…

We don’t need anything more than we need each other.

Saying No Is Your Friend--Here's How

Hi! I’ve been thinking a lot about saying no lately. Meghan O’Malley and I just finished our very first #nopeAF: A Boundaries Workshop for Women on Saturday, and it was AMAZING. We talked a lot about saying no, and also a lot about saying yes—when we really feel enthusiastic and aligned with what we’re saying yes to.

Elizabeth GilletteJanuary 28, 2018boundaries, self-care, self worth, healing, heirloom counseling Comment

Boundaries are Badass

I strongly believe that boundaries are necessary in order for us to be truly happy and successful. Boundaries are critical, and "no" is our friend. The thing about boundaries is that often you don’t know you don’t have them. Many of us can get far in our lives, be praised even, for not having boundaries. Especially in our family of origin, our schools, and our culture in general. Even more so as women. We learn that in order to “earn” love, we must sacrifice our desires, comfort, and consent.

Elizabeth GilletteNovember 20, 2017boundaries, self love, self worth, self-care, self care, heirloom counseling Comment

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