What's on your secure attachment playlist?

Hello! It’s so lovely to be back here again after a week of diving deeply into the Understanding Avoidant Attachment Online Course and completing the first draft! I’m looking forward to the official launch in just a couple of weeks!

All of that being said, I’ve been interested in continuing to connect with you in ways that shake up the traditional blog post. I love attachment theory because once you learn about it, it’s easy to apply it to all of the relationships in your life. One of the most beautiful ways we express our feelings about relationships, connection, and love is through music—so I started to consider what it might be like to create a Secure Attachment Playlist that captures the stability, consistency, and warmth of secure connection and allows us to tap in to that feeling whenever we want. Cultivating a sense of security primes our brains to notice it, appreciate it, and feel it more deeply when we have it in our daily lives.

I asked folks on Instagram to contribute some of their favorite secure attachment songs to the playlist, and they seriously came through! I loved listening to the suggested songs and noticing how I very quickly felt more grounded and calm after listening. I’m curious to hear about your experience! What songs would you add to this list? Please suggest them in the comments below and I will continue to update the playlist!

I’m listing the songs here on the blog, but I also went ahead and created playlists on Apple Music and Spotify so you can listen, too!

Heirloom Counseling’s Secure Attachment Playlist

Oh My Love by John Lennon

Friend Like You by Joshua Radin

3 Rounds and a Sound by Blind Pilot

Rose of My Heart by Johnny Cash

Love Songs in the Dark by Kelsey Labelle

We Belong by Pat Benetar

This Sweet Love by James Yuill

There Is a Light That Never Goes Out by The Smiths

Keep Us by Peter Bradley Adams

Someone Like You by Van Morrison

My Love Is Your Love by Whitney Houston

Your Mother’s Eyes by The Head and the Heart

If We Were Vampires by Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit

You’re the World to Me by David Gray

You Got Me by Tristan Prettyman

Steady As We Go by Dave Matthews Band

Porch Songs by Chris Pureka

By Your Side by Sade

I Don’t Mind by Joseph

Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You by Lauryn Hill

Life Is Better With You by Michael Franti

Now You Know by Anais Mitchell

Ice Cream by Sarah McLachlan

Let’s Stay Together by Al Green

Overlap by Ani Difranco

Forever by Ben Harper

I Belong to You by Brandi Carlile

Here On Out by Dave Matthews Band

Gotta Have You by The Weepies

The Truth by India Arie

Heavy by Birdtalker

You Are the Best Thing by Ray Lamontagne

Amazing by Josh Kelley

Godawful Things by Lake Street Dive

Slow Show by The National

Thin Air by Pearl Jam

Power of Two by the Indigo Girls

Songbird by Fleetwood Mac

There are so many ways we can connect with each other. I hope you make it a priority today to reach out to someone you love and let them know how much they mean to you. You could even share this playlist with them :)